10 Things I Wish I Knew Before I Started Dating

#3 — Nobody is perfect, and neither are you.

Matt Lillywhite
5 min readNov 15, 2020
Photo by Eric Ayon on Unsplash

Before I started dating, I assumed that you just needed to find someone cute, fall in love, and then spend the rest of your days living happily ever after. But obviously, I was completely wrong.

Most of us spend a lot of time trying to find the perfect partner. We want to find “the one.” However, we rarely stop and think about the necessary qualities and mindset to be considered attractive by someone else.

Right? We think, “if I can find the perfect person, they’ll immediately fall in love with me since I’m incredibly awesome.” But unfortunately, that’s rarely what happens.

Instead, dating is often a long period of awkward conversations, rejection, and heartbreak. But once you find someone that you genuinely want to be with for the rest of your life, it’s totally worth it.

So below are several things I wish I knew before I started dating. Each of these insights changed my life for the better. I’m sure they will do the same for you, too.

#1. Love isn’t like the movies. Sure, you can go on a spontaneous vacation with your partner to The Bahamas. And if you do, I’m sure you’ll have a lot of fun. But the truth is that life has a lot of uneventful moments. And whether…

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Matt Lillywhite

Full-time storyteller, part-time procrastinator. Writing to inspire, entertain, and avoid doing laundry. Substack: https://mattlillywhite.substack.com/subscribe