To Become Emotionally Intelligent, Follow These 4 Habits

All of them will improve your relationships

Matt Lillywhite


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I know exactly how you feel.

I can tell that you want to make friends with anyone and live each day with a beautiful sense of optimism. But for one reason or another, you have no idea how to start.

Let me begin by saying you’re capable of achieving a much better life than you think. But before I continue this article, I need to drop some truth bombs:

  • You don’t need to be extremely good looking to have amazing relationships.
  • You don’t need to have an incredible sense of confidence to make friends with anyone.
  • You don’t need to wear designer clothes to gain approval or validation from other people.

The above points are contrary to what most people think. But if you’re reading this article, I can safely assume you’re not like most people. Are you?

Quite rightly, you want the best for yourself. You want to improve your friendships, relationships, and every other important aspect of your life that matters.

Fortunately, there’s a solution to your current state of unhappiness. It’s called emotional intelligence. So if you want to begin the process of changing your life forever, you first need to change your actions.

Here’s how.

Listen To Other People With Intent

“We have two ears and one mouth so that we can listen twice as much as we speak.” — Epictetus

When you understand how to listen intentionally to someone, the quality of your relationship will exponentially improve. Because when you genuinely care about what people say, they’ll probably reciprocate.

The truth is that most people don’t know how to have a conversation. Sure, they might hear what you say. But more often than not, they’re not listening. Instead, they’re just trying to come up with a reply.

This is something I see throughout my daily life. All too often, people take more interest in themselves than other people. So naturally, they don’t have great…



Matt Lillywhite

Writing is a superpower. London based. But you can probably find me in all four corners of the world.