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To Change Your Life, Ask Yourself This Question Every Day
“How do I want my friends & family to describe me?”
A different version of you exists in the minds of everyone who knows you.
Your friends (probably) see a different side of your personality to your family. And likewise, you might act differently at work to how you would around your spouse at home. Thus, if you want to reinvent yourself, an excellent place to start is changing the perception that other people have of you.
How do you want each person in your life to describe you? Only you know the answer to that question. But once you figure it out, it’s much easier to make progress towards the eventual goal of becoming your ideal self. In the words of the Greek philosopher, Epictetus:
“First say to yourself what you would be, and then do what you have to do.”
Every morning, I carefully think about how I want my personality to be perceived by my loved ones. Then, I write down one thing I can do to embody the qualities of my ideal self.
For example, I want my friends and family to see me as someone who’s incredibly honest. Therefore, I always make an effort to say exactly what’s on my mind. Because even though the truth can sometimes be uncomfortable, my loved ones respect my ability to…
